Agenderfluid
Fluid, with a floor of nothing: other genders come and go, and you always drift back to agender.
- One of seventeen Agender identities
- No settled flag
- 4 min read
A shorter entry: the essentials, written to the same standard. The fuller guides are on the main identities.
What it is
Genderfluid says the gender moves. Agenderfluid says where it moves back to. Most of the time there is nothing there: no gender, no signal. Then something turns up for a few hours or a few weeks — a girl, a demiboy, something with no name. It stays a while. Then it goes, and the nothing is back.
That is the whole shape. Agender is the home address; the other genders are visits. The record on the LGBTQIA+ Wiki puts it plainly: an agenderfluid person may feel other genders and may change, but always returns to agender and feels agender most of the time.
It is not agenderflux, though the two get muddled constantly. Flux changes how much gender there is, and the gender itself never changes. Agenderfluid changes which — you may genuinely be a girl on Tuesday — and the gap between a louder nothing and an actual something is the whole distinction. This is a small word. The wiki records its flags, from Tumblr in December 2018, but not who first used the term. There is no research behind it and nobody has counted its users. The experience did not wait for the label.
Pronouns
There is no agenderfluid pronoun. They/them is common because it fits the floor. Some switch sets when a gender visits; most keep one set and let the visits pass unannounced, because a moving pronoun costs more than it saves. A fixed set that only matches you most of the time is not a lie.
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Nearby identities
The distinction is the useful part.
No visits. Flat nothing, for years. If nothing ever turns up, that is agender, and it is not a simpler thing than this.
Compare Agenderfluid and Agender →Volume, not station. In flux the nothing gets a little louder and quieter but never becomes a girl. In agenderfluid it does. The wiki draws exactly this line.
Compare Agenderfluid and Agenderflux →The wider word, with no floor stated. A genderfluid person may pass through agender as one stop among many. Agenderfluid names the stop you always come back to.
Compare Agenderfluid and Genderfluid →It might not be you if…
- The nothing never lifts. Not once, not faintly. That is agender, and it is next door.
- Something is always there and only its strength moves. That is genderflux, or agenderflux if it falls back to zero.
- The visits track your mood — arriving with the bad weeks and leaving with them. The wiki lists a near-synonym, cansegender, defined by exactly that link; more often it is a mood wearing a gender costume.
- Which gender you feel depends on who is in the room, and always lands on whichever keeps that person comfortable. Look hard at that before naming it.
Questions people ask
What is the difference between agenderfluid and agenderflux?
Flux changes how much; fluid changes which. An agenderflux person is agender at base and sometimes has a bit more gender — unnamed, just louder. An agenderfluid person is agender at base and sometimes is a specific other gender: a girl, a demiboy, something else, with a name on it. The wiki record states this as the defining difference. If your visits never have a name, look at agenderflux first.
Do I have to be agender most of the time for this to fit?
That is how the record defines it: agender is the base, and you feel agender most of the time. If the other genders are where you mostly live and nothing is the occasional visitor, plain genderfluid describes it better. Nobody is measuring the split, but the word does carry a claim about which way is home.
Is there an agenderfluid flag?
Several, according to the wiki: combinations of the agender and genderfluid flags, made on 25 December 2018 by a Tumblr user, all using the agender flag as the base because agender is the base identity. No single version has won.
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