Xenogender identities
Genders described through things other than man and woman: light, sound, weather, growth, colour.
- Twenty-seven identities
- eight with a settled flag
Twenty-seven identities sit under Xenogender here: Xenogender, Stellargender, Frostgender, Genderfae and twenty-three more.
Each has its own page: what it feels like day to day, how it differs from the ones next to it, and honest reasons it might not be you. The cards below are the short version. It suggests. You decide.
All twenty-seven Xenogender identities
Flag, name, one line. The full description is one click away.
A gender that makes complete sense to you, described with words that have nothing to do with man or woman.
A gender the word "star" describes better than "man", "woman" or "neither" — burning, distant, and there whether or not anyone is looking up.
A gender that feels cold and snowy — frost as the nearest honest description, when no human gender word gets close.
Your gender moves. It can land almost anywhere — except on man.
Your gender moves. It just never moves feminine — not rarely, never.
A gender you can only really explain through sound — or one that shifts shape the more you hear it named.
The most accurate answer to "what's your gender" isn't a word — it's a colour, a texture, a particular quality of light.
A gender that sits closer to weather, soil and growing things than to man or woman — described with a word only a small number of people use.
Your gender is tangled up with your kintype — pull one out and the other comes with it.
A gender your voice doesn't describe — it's the thing your gender is made of.
A gender that opens and goes dormant with the conditions around you — light, season, weather, room — rather than holding still or swinging between man and woman.
The truest short answer you have to "what is your gender" is a colour, and it is not a metaphor for anything else.
Not a mix of the two. Not the absence of one. A specific other thing — and "other" is the most accurate word you have for it.
A gender that's animal in some way: connected to one creature, to many, or to animals in general.
Your gender moves. It can be masculine. It is never entirely a binary man.
Snowgender is the winter stop of quagender — a gender that arrives with the cold and leaves with it. It has no meaning on its own.
A xenogender that feels bright and celestial. The radiance is the point, and it can sit on top of masculine, feminine or neither.
A gender too vast to take in at once. You only ever see the part you are pointing the telescope at.
A gender, or the absence of one, that sits above the whole gender spectrum rather than anywhere on it.
A gender that feels like space: void-like and never-ending, full and empty at the same time.
A gender that space describes better than man, woman or neither — not one star, the whole dark field of them.
A gender that feels like what fills a galaxy — planets, moons, black holes, the lot — with a masculine and a feminine version on offer.
A colour gender that will not hold one colour: any hue, any shade, changing as it likes.
A gender that is a star, or is like one: burning, far off, and there whether or not anyone is looking up.
Non-binary and xenogender at the same time, and unwilling to drop either word.
A gender that moves with the sky: masculine, feminine or neither depending on what is overhead, on an astronomical clock rather than a mood.
Genderfluid, and the places it moves between are mostly xenogenders: colour, weather, sound, creature. Ordinary movement, unusual stops.
Flags in this category
Eight of the twenty-seven have a settled community flag, each with its own flag page. The rest have no flag everyone agrees on, so they show as a hatched swatch: inventing one for someone else’s identity isn’t ours to do.
Compare within Xenogender
The distinction is the useful part. Side by side, the difference stops being abstract.
Not sure where you fit?
Twenty questions across six dimensions, then a ranked shortlist rather than a verdict. Scoring runs on your device; nothing you answer leaves it.
Other categories
Eight more categories, 111 more identities. See all 138 in one place →
Binary
Gender identity that lines up with the sex assigned at birth. Cis is a description, not a default.
Transgender
Gender identity that differs from the sex assigned at birth. An umbrella, not a single experience.
Non-Binary
Identities outside the man/woman binary. Both, neither, in between, or something else entirely.
Demigender
A partial connection to a gender. Some of it fits, and the rest is something else.
Fluid
Gender that moves. The identity itself shifts, or its intensity does, or both.
Agender
The absence of gender, in its various shapes — none, null, void, or simply not applicable.
Cultural
Third and other genders recognised within specific cultures, most of them older than the word "transgender".
Exploring
Working it out, or deliberately declining to. Both are places to stand, not waiting rooms.
